David Kadavy

David Kadavy is author of Mind Management, Not Time Management, The Heart to Start & Design for Hackers.

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LM: #336: Micro-projects

October 06, 2025

If you want to do a big project, start with a small project.

To be clear, I am not saying you should “break a project down.” Instead, do an entire small project that in some way relates to the bigger project.

The problem with “break a project down” is, you don’t learn some of the most important skills of actually bringing your project into the world, such as allocating resources, preparing to ship, and standing there naked as the world reacts.

When you break a project down, you think you’ve made bite-sized pieces. Without the skills required to swallow your pride and ship, you’ve only made chewing gum. You’ll keep going and going…

Your smaller project can be completely different from your bigger project. You’ll still learn the crucial skills of the domain.

But it doesn’t have to be. War and Peace was published serially in a magazine and only later made into a book, with plenty of changes. These newsletters are built from tweets, and I use them to work out ideas for my books.

Start with micro-projects, and build up. Recycle elements, collect reactions, stack skills, repeat.

Aphorism: “A book, in my opinion, should not be planned out beforehand, but as one writes it will form itself, subject, as I say, to the constant emotional promptings of one’s personality.” —James Joyce

Book: Chicago Homes (Amazon) is a portrait of the city’s everyday architecture.

Best,
David
P.S. Micro-projects are a method of surround and conquer.

LM: #335: The right to offend

September 29, 2025

If you’re doing work of any significance, it is going to upset someone.

Art is speech and if you’ve bothered to speak, someone won’t agree.

We’ve made a lot of progress in recent decades in considering the feelings of others. The side-effect is, assholes are having a heyday – they actually enjoy hurting people.

Meanwhile, kind people are paralyzed with fear they might offend.

And so we live in this strange world where nobody can agree what’s true. The assholes are saying whatever necessary to get a rise, while the angels are too scared to even ask a question.

There’s a quote about liberty that is essentially, “My right to move my arms ends where your right to not have your nose struck begins.” In other words, you may act and exist, but don’t harm others.

What it doesn’t account for is that another person’s perception of having been harmed is subjective. Claude Monet painted a sunrise and that absolutely scandalized the art establishment. They literally called it offensive.

If someone says you’ve offended them, you should consider what they say. They have the right to be offended, and to tell you.

You have the right to have done in good faith this thing you didn’t expect to hurt anyone, and to stop doing it if you think it did. But you also have the right to decide to continue as you were.

That is, “Your right to hold your fist in space does not end where another’s right to ram their nose into it begins.”

If someone runs into your fist, do not cut off your hand.

Aphorism: “The crisis of modern society is precisely that the youth no longer feel heroic in the plan for action that their culture has set up.” —Ernest Becker

Cool: AncientTexts.ai shows you the original Latin texts from authors such as Cicero and Julius Caesar, alongside English translations.

Best,
David
P.S. Dr. Aziz Gazipura showed us how to be kinder by being not nice.

LM: #334: Instead of “feedback,” seek this

September 22, 2025

Creators shouldn’t seek feedback.

When the best man gets too close to the speaker, you get a howling noise. That’s feedback.

It’s also the result of a process called feedback: The output of a system becoming input.

Unfortunately, feedback is also used to describe asking people what they think about your work, so you can turn that output into input.

Last week’s three-headed feedback monster showed us why feedback taken at face-value is confusing and contradictory.

It conjures an image of that famous Charlie Chaplin scene. Everyone’s opinion being shoved down your throat or slammed in your face.

Instead of feedback, seek reactions:

Reactions are not directives of what you should or shouldn’t do with your work. Someone may hate what you’ve done, and it could mean you’re on to something. Someone may like it, and it means you’ve lost your way.

Just as a rock guitarist can manipulate what might otherwise be noise to play a riff that absolutely shreds, your job as a creator is to decide what reactions to listen to, or lean into, so you can create work that’s provocative and impactful.

Aphorism: “Always, the best bits I have in a special, the ones that are like, ‘That just kills every time,’ started with silence.” —Louis CK

Book: Free to Focus (Amazon) is Michael Hyatt’s productivity system for achieving more by doing less.

Best,
David

LM: #333: The three-headed feedback monster

September 15, 2025

Deep within the bowels of Earth lives a creature.

He thrives off creators’ unfinished projects.

He eats experimental cupcakes and drinks neglected home brew. He wears half-sewn dresses, pastes sketches of never-built sneakers to his feet, and adorns himself with jewelry of 3D-printed prototypes.

His entertainment consists of watching unedited A-roll of would-be YouTube videos, reading single-act screenplays, and listening to fifteen-second guitar riffs recorded on iPhones.

His cave walls are covered with abandoned sketches and unfinished paintings. From the stalactites of his ceiling hang mobiles of somewhat-assembled model cars and airplanes. His floors are covered with a rug of crocheted potholders and half-knitted onesies.

As Cro-Magnon man chased gazelles into exhaustion, this monster’s method of hunting is to drive creators into endless revisions. After repeated cycles of second-guessing and self-doubt, the bewildered creator collapses. By the time they come-to, their abandoned project is gone.

This monster is uniquely adapted to confusing the hell out of creators, because he has three heads. Disguised as friends and family, internet commenters and reviewers, even hijacking the inner dialogues of creators themselves, the three-headed feedback monster can sing praises, shout vituperations, and ignore the creator’s work while looking at his phone, all at the same time.

The three-headed feedback monster is mythical, but when you put your work into the world, you will be convinced the monster is real.

The feedback you get on your work will be unreliable, contradictory, and confusing.

You can’t listen to all of it – unless you want to make another donation to the feedback monster.

Book: The Judgement of Paris (Amazon) is Ross King’s dramatic telling of the rise of Impressionism.

Cool: Legentibus is an app that teaches you Latin with text and audio.

Best,
David
P.S. If you prefer, Love Mondays is now also available on Substack.

LM: #332: You need two phones

September 08, 2025

The best $200 I’ve spent in the past year has been for a used iPhone 11.

I put all my social apps on it, and deleted them from my main phone.

I’m usually at home, so it’s technically just as easy to pick it up and waste several hours, but this is mitigated in two ways.

One, the stuff I need to do on a phone, such as message people, no longer leads to unintended social-media time-travel. The let me check my likes a second or multitasking as you wait for a text response.

Two, when I do use my second phone, I know I’m doing it. So I’m more intentional. I either designate that, yes, it’s okay to take a social media break, or I begin with a specific social-media task in mind. Best of all, when I do those things, I have a bigger screen, yet my main phone is still the only sane size for an everyday carry phone – the 13 mini.

The amount of focus I’ve had over the past year has been worth $200, I suspect, many times over (I’ll find out for sure when my next book comes out).

By now, everyone has extra devices laying around. You cannot argue that you can’t afford a second phone. Who can afford not to?

Aphorism: “Media, as extensions of our physical and nervous systems, constitute a world of biochemical interactions that must ever seek new equilibrium as new extensions occur.” —Marshall McLuhan

Cool: LMNT is such a good electrolyte supplement.

Best,
David
P.S. New YouTube video: 12 Life-Changing Books You Haven’t Read.

LM: #331: Secular asceticism

September 01, 2025

I was born agnostic.

Never for a moment have I believed some higher power would eventually judge and punish my behavior.

But, I’ve learned to place a lot of value in the self-government of my actions. I follow strict routines, hardly ever drink, and try my best to recognize, reflect upon, and right and faults in my demeanor and comportment.

I used to think religion was an absolute sham – that it was foolish to believe in what is observably false through the lenses of rationality and science. Nor could I appreciate the nuanced realities surrounding the many atrocities committed in the names of gods. I’m not and will probably never be a believer, but I recognize now these were ignorant and reductionist viewpoints.

I recognize there’s something very rational about a belief in God and more importantly the practicing of rules and rituals in the recognition of a god.

I think atheists, agnostics, and the “spiritual but not religious” would benefit from a sort of secular asceticism.

The major religions of the world became major religions in part because they directed the behaviors of their practitioners in ways that were beneficial to the group – and sometimes the individuals within. There were literally thousands of flavors of Christianity, for example, and those which refused to write down their beliefs or have sex even for procreation understandably didn’t make it.

Even if you don’t believe you will be struck down or suffer eternal torture for behavior deemed deviant doesn’t mean there isn’t behavior you’d be better off avoiding – beyond the obvious stuff that directly harms others. Society as a whole and the individuals within would be better off if we secularists didn’t discard with God the foundational behaviors common to the dominant religions: routine, contemplation, humility, gratitude, accountability, compassion, sobriety, judiciousness – what am I forgetting?

Societies who practice these behaviors thrive. Those that don’t, disintegrate.

Book: Essays of Montaigne (Amazon) is a collection from the 16th-century pioneer of the personal essay.

Cool: News Minimalist uses AI to tell you only the important news.

Best,
David
P.S. I’m doing 300 hours meditation.

LM: #330: Upside ostracized

August 25, 2025

In 1874, a group of painters known as the Batignolles group held an exhibition – in the Batignolles district of Paris.

People mostly went to mock them, howling with laughter, whispering and shouting insults, even spitting on the paintings. The critics printed stories calling their work, “nauseating and revolting,” “dangerous,” “offensive,” and “horrible.”

At their next auction, the hecklers loudly interrupted the bidding. Some paintings sold for hardly the cost of the frames. The painters’ portrait commissions dried up – nobody wanted to associate with them. They got by on dinner invitations from their few supporters.

When the Batignolles group had put together their exhibition, they had made a pact: Either participate, or submit your work to the Salon – a government-sponsored who’s who of painting, juried by the establishment, who had routinely rejected their work. So, either take a stand and do the art you believe in, or once again try to fit in.

The Batignolles group became known by a name foisted on them as an insult: Impressionists.

The artists who participated in the debut exhibition included Cézanne, Degas, Monet, Morisot, Pissarro, and Renoir – names now synonymous with one of the most impactful artistic movements ever.

The artists who decided once again to seek validation from the status quo were Fantin, Gonzalés, Guillemet, Henner, Legros, and Tissot. The only name recognizable to anyone but the most ardent art-history buff would be Manet – though when you mention him many think you mean Monet.

Aphorism: “To escape criticism: Do nothing, say nothing, be nothing.” —Elbert Hubbard

Cool: TRE (Tension and Trauma Reduction Therapy) is simple, but powerful (use with caution!)

Best,
David
P.S. Thank you to Atul Raj for having me on The Genius Talks podcast.

LM: #329: Snap-to-grid thinking

August 18, 2025

If you’ve ever used Photoshop without knowing “Snap to grid” was on, you know it’s a frustrating feeling. You try to paint in a certain spot, then inexplicably your cursor jumps to another.

This is what it’s like talking to many people.

It’s normal that, due to flaws in communication or interpretation, what you mean to say is not always what people understand, but snap-to-grid thinkers have a limited number of points to which they will jump in any conversation topic. It’s usually the 1–3 hot-button items that are regularly being harped on by the media.

The topics which they can talk about are limited, and they can only say about each things they already heard from someone else.

To be fair, we’re all a little snap-to-grid. Our thoughts are mostly products of what information we’ve been exposed to, and the subjects we can even consider are but meatballs and noodles suspended in the soup of media and social influence that surrounds us.

Additionally, the thoughts of others are hand- and foot-holds on scaffolding we can climb to reach new heights. You don’t have to build a personal moral framework from scratch when you can start with, say, John Stuart Mill’s Utilitarianism.

But the more different places you get information, the closer you study that information – so that you don’t merely accept what’s fed to you but instead consider what you agree and don’t agree with – and the more you think and write to yourself, ostensibly free of outside influence, the higher fidelity grid your thoughts navigate. If most people are at 1,000 pixels, you can make it to 100, 10, or 5.

If you’re really diligent, you can sometimes break free of the grid altogether, and start painting at the pixel level.

Aphorism: “Do not think of knocking out another person’s brains because he differs in opinion from you. It would be as rational to knock yourself on the head because you differ from yourself ten years ago.” –Horace Mann

Book: Hard Lessons From The Hurt Business is heavyweight boxer Ed Latimore’s guide to prevailing through life’s inevitable blows.

Best,
David
P.S. How to have a thought.

LM: #328: The Pre-Algorithmite Bloggerhood

August 11, 2025

The term “slop” has been floating around. Most often, it’s called “AI slop,” but slop has been around for centuries.

The original slop rebels were a group of kids who, incredibly, made a mark on art history. They were in their upper teens and early twenties, and were meeting secretly in their homes and studios in central London.

They were students at the Royal Academy of Art, which had a dominant influence on what was considered “good” art. They quietly leaked their existence at the Academy’s Summer Exhibition by signing their paintings with their group’s initials after their names: “P.R.B.”

They attracted the ire of none other than Charles Dickens, who published a screed mocking their “mean, odious, repulsive, and revolting” work.

They called themselves the Pre-Raphaelite Brotherhood. Despite their name, they actually worshipped the Renaissance master, Raphael. What they had a problem with was how the style of painting Raphael had perfected had become a formula that the Academy passed down, making all the “good” art look the same.

Kind of like how our current iteration of AI-generated art and writing is formulaically derived by a mathematically-average ideal of what people consider “good.”

This is so perfect you’re going to think I’m making this up, but they referred to the formulaic art by a term they invented based upon the name of the late founder of the Academy, Sir Joshua Reynolds. They called him “Sir Sloshua,” and the soulless, unoriginal work promoted by the academy, “slosh.”

The P.R.B. felt the formulaic approach had disconnected artists from reality. Their early doctrines – yes, this group of young punks had doctrines – called for artists to “have genuine ideas to express,” “study Nature attentively,” and be inspired by previous art only through what is “direct and serious and heartfelt,” ignoring what is “conventional and self-parading and learned by rote.”

The result in the painting Dickens hated so much was Jesus as a little boy in the carpentry workshop of his parents. An old woman’s hands were swollen and a man’s arms were hairy, veiny, and sunburnt. Jesus himself was, according to Dickens, a “hideous, wry-necked, blubbering, red-headed boy.”

In only a few short years of their official existence, the P.R.B. made declarations that echoed throughout not just painting, but literature and design, inspiring the Arts and Crafts movement, Oscar Wilde, and the fantasy worlds and characters of J. R. R. Tolkien.

Like the Pre-Raphaelite Brotherhood, we need the Pre-Algorithmite Bloggerhood. AI slop is just another step on a path that has existed since Academic art, and that descended sharply with the dawn of the algorithm, which has determined what is “good” by the formulaic application of whatever can be measured as interesting in the eyes of the lowest common denominator.

So write (or otherwise create) based upon your actual observations and feelings. Abandon slop-purveying rubrics such as niches, hashtags, and personal brands. Create something that is real and honest and beautiful.

Maybe 175 years from now they’ll be writing about a different P.R.B.

Book: Four Thousand Weeks (Amazon) is full of mind-benders about the nature of time and what it means to be productive.

Cool: Merlin helps you identify birds.

Best,
David
P.S. I shared a reel about the P.R.B. on Substack, Instagram, YouTube Shorts, and TikTok.

LM: #327: Aspirations through obligations

August 04, 2025

There are aspiration-driven desires, and obligation-driven desires.

Our obligations come from a sense of duty to ourselves and others. We want to make money and participate in society. We want to make our families feel proud. We want to stay consistent with our identities as reliable people.

Our aspirations come from within. We often can’t put them into words. We want to write novels, make music, and build beautiful software, or just kinda ya know, do things.

But obligations tend to be stronger motivators of follow-through. That you lose track of time while painting gets you started, but won’t help you finish.

Ongoing projects are great because they give you ready-to-go obligations that help achieve your aspirations. As expression pours out, you have containers to catch it.

Well-placed obligations stop procrastination and fulfill aspirations better than waiting for inspiration.

Aphorism: “Find what you love and let it kill you.” —Charles Bukowski

Book: The Organized Mind (Amazon) shows you how to think straight in the age of information overload.

Best,
David
P.S. Self-discrepancy theory explains aspiration procrastination.

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